2 posts tagged “obituary”

We lost John Updike today (actually, yesterday; it is four o'clock in the morning as I write this). It caught me by surprise; apparently I thought he was going to live forever. Yes, he was seventy-six, but he had that long, lean look that some men manage to carry effortlessly into their eighties and nineties. I came to Updike late, for reasons that are too stupid and fatuous to relate now, but I'm so glad I found him. He was a great writer and there is a lot left for me to read. For that I'm grateful, but I'm still sorry to see him go.

John Updike

My sister, who hardly ever calls, called today just to read this to me out of the newspaper.

Dolores Aguilar

1929 - Aug. 7, 2008

Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7,
2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her
son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby. She is survived by her daughters
Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy;
grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette,
Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier,
Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph,
Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr.,
Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci,
Isabella, Samantha and Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.

Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely
shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of
her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very
few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her
passing.

Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will
remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times
throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and
perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the
end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a
good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is
finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I
hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a
family again.

There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she
spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to
see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their
goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.

[From Vallejo Times-Herald]